Healing
by Beth
ORIGINAL MESSAGE:
Well, it's been two weeks since my baby boy, Murphy died. I still miss him terribly, but it is getting easier. The first week I could barely move, now I'm back functioning. I find myself smiling a lot thinking about him and all the great times we had. We were a real team. We knew each other and trusted each other inside and out. I realize how lucky I was to have such a special little guy in my life.
I even find myself thinking about a new baby. I never thought I would or could this soon. But I just miss having some one to dote on and cuddle with. I think Murphy would understand.
Thanks again for all the kind words posted here. They really do help.
DISCUSSION:
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how you must hurt. Go ahead and get yourself a new little fur baby, this will be a new adventure and you will love it for itself. Nothing will actually replace the love you had for Murphy. This will get you mind off of the hurt and let you dwell on all the past good times. In the meantime, you will have to take care of your new baby and your love relationship will start on the first day it comes home. Good luck. (Dont wait too long)
Bernadette & Bee Bee
Beth--I am so happy for you. Yes, Murphy would understand. Keep going girl! Hugs.
Felicia
Beth, glad you are back! It takes time. Believe me. Its natural to think about another Malt. Ha! I waited only 2 weeks before getting Buster. It was the best thing in the world and the best therapy. I still think of my Chico and yes, it still hurts. But I know he is safe at Rainbow Bridge and we will be together someday. Now I;m trying to get thru Puppyhood with Buster! Lots of fun. Give it time. You will know when you are ready for another furbaby.
Libby & Buster
Beth, I agree with Libby that you will know when it's time to get another fur baby. We "lost" HQ in April, and brought Archie and Zoe home 3 weeks ago. They keep me hopping and have helped to fill an empty part of my heart. I find myself talking to HQ all of the time, and asking his help in raising the little ones. I'm rally glad that we decided to get 2 puppies. It doesn't feel at all like we're just attempting to "replace" HQ. We've just added another way to vent our love. Good luck.
JudyS
Beth, I wish you all the best, and hope that you will get another furbaby when you are ready. We did the same as Judy and got two. I still talk to Rastus...I wish that Moose & Squirrel could have met him. But maybe they have....they love to sniff at the "Rastus tree".
Deanna (Moose & Squirrel)
Beth, when my Higgens died at 14, I was heartbroken and thought I would NEVER have another dog. I got Lucy about a month later. It was so quiet in my house and I missed Higs SO much. Luce was the best medicine in the world for healing. (Just getting her through the puppy stuff; housebreaking, no chew, etc. was therapy.) I still tell Higs I love him nearly every day and when Luce does something funny or magical, I often find myself asking Higs, "so what do you think about that big boy?" Anyhow, my best prescription for life is to follow your heart. You will know when it is time for a new baby, whether it is a week or a year. Take care. Murphy is pulling for you.
cathy brown
Beth, sorryto hear about Murphy. It's very hard to lose a doggie. I really think you should get another fur baby, it's not like your being unfaithful to Murphy, a new pup will help fill the void. Good luck.
Dottie & Tasha
I am so sorry for your loss. I loss my Kiki puppy not too long ago. We are getting 2 little new puppies. The great part is that they are Kiki's niece and nephew. Get another baby. It really brings the happiness back. Nothing will replace Murphy. I think of Kiki everyday. I have even made a scrap book of all of our good times together. It's great how these little babies affect your life. So, start a new one with another baby.
Good luck.
Jenny
Beth when my Lasha Missey died I would see her everywhere I looked a crumpled up towel on the floor, would look like her, and that was just one thing. It took me about three weeks to decide that I needed a living dog around, or go nuts, so to the HS I went and came up with Aurora, and I have no doubt that that was the right thing for me and my family to do.
malteze
Beth, So glad to hear from you! I am sure Murphy would want you to be fulfilled again!! I agree with the others that it would help to fill that void. Having a new baby to dote over will help you so much! Take good care and let us know what you do!
Robin M. & Taffy
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