I don't know if this will help you or not, but I let Lucy sleep
on the bed at night. It is too high for her to get down, so
even when she was just a tiny pup, she'd kiss me awake and wine
when she needed to go out. Now that she's a year old, she usually
sleeps all night but still get me up at 5AM with the kisses, ready
to be taken out. I never did crate her very much, but really,
once they are used to it, they give up the noise. YOu just have
to be firm about leaving them in through the whines and barks, the
same as with human babies who need to be scheduled to sleep.
Good luck with this, by the way. My last dog, a male Silky terrier,
never did get over the need to use the legs of furniture. I didn't
often have folks in for dinner, as the dining room table was his
favorite spot!
Cathy Brown